Lynn. talk about a small world. I grew up in NY and I was living in NYC until I moved to the west coast in 1992. In 1990 when I was injured and I had cut back big time on my running (which is all I seemed to live for back then) I started swimming quite a bit and started to enter some triathlons. One day when I was swimming at the Athletic and Swim club (51st and 7th ave downstairs) a guy started screaming at me to use my legs and kick more. I swam to the the end of the pool and spoke extensively about swimming with your husband!!!
Several of my freinds have worked with him over the years.
As well, my wife is a cancer survivor. She was diagnosed with colon cancer in 2002 at age 43. I know how trying this time can be for both you and your husband.
I will also say that cancer and facing mortality has changed my life permanently, for the better. I was caught in a cycle of acheivement which granted me litte joy or happiness. The prospect of facing raising my daughter alone without her mother impacted me in a way that little else had, and from that time forward I made significant permanentt changes in my life.
I think that times like these are sacred, which is not to say that they aren't frightening, difficult and terribly painful!!
My thoughts and prayers are with you, Doug and your whole family. Blessings to all of you. John.